Cov neeg muaj mob BPD nquag nquag txhawm rau sib txuas lus zoo
Thaum kev tsis sib haum xeeb ntawm tus kheej (BPD) ua kev sib txuas lus nrog koj tus neeg hlub, tom qab kev pab, kev khav theem thiab kev tseeb (SET) txoj kev yuav pab tau. Nws yog ib txoj hauv kev rau koj nrog ib tug phooj ywg lossis ib tus neeg hauv tsev neeg uas muaj teeb meem nrog BPD thiab ua rau nws hnov thiab to taub.
Yog vim li cas SET ua haujlwm nrog rau tus Cwj Pwm Ciam Tiv Thaiv
Cov tsos mob ntawm tus ciam teb ntawm tus kheej (BPD) tuaj yeem ua rau tus neeg muaj tus mob BPD nug txog tej yam tsis sib haum xeeb lossis tsis muaj peev xwm paub tias lwm tus neeg saib xyuas lawv, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum muaj kev ntxhov siab .
Tej zaum nws yuav tsis muaj peev xwm muaj kev xav tsis sib haum xeeb tib lub sij hawm thiab yuav pom tej yam hauv cov xim dub thiab dawb nrog rau qhov ntxoov ntxoo me me heev.
Txoj cai SET pub rau koj hais ncaj ncees txog koj tus kheej txoj kev xav tau, kev pom zoo lossis kev xav, thaum tseem tuav cov cwj pwm tsim nyog. Vim tias txhua kauj ruam ua nyob hauv lub xeem, nws tseem ceeb heev kom ua cov kauj ruam no.
Txhawb nqa
Kev txhawb yog hais txog thawj nqe lus uas qhia tias koj txhawb tus neeg nrog BPD. Nws yog ib nqe lus uas pib nrog "Kuv" thiab qhia txog kev txhawj xeeb thiab lub siab xav pab. Nws yog txhua yam uas tsim tau lub hauv paus rau txoj kev sib raug zoo lossis kev sib raug zoo: "Kuv xav sim los pab koj zoo dua," "Kuv tu koj" lossis "Kuv txhawj xeeb txog koj lub siab".
Cov lus hais txhawb yog txhais tau tias ua rau lwm tus neeg paub tias kev sib raug zoo yog ib qho kev nyab xeeb thiab nws xav tau qhov tseem ceeb txawm tias lub caij nyuaj no.
Empathy
Khoos phais yog hais txog kev sib txuas lus tias koj nkag siab txog yam uas tus neeg ntawd xav thiab tsom ntsoov rau "koj." Nws tsis yog kev xaav los ntawm kev hlub los yog kev mob siab, tab sis nws yog qhov tseeb thiab paub tseeb txog lwm tus neeg, xws li, "Kuv pom tias koj npau taws, thiab kuv nkag siab tias koj yuav ua dab tsi rau kuv," los yog " kev ntxhov siab no yuav tsum yog rau koj. "
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas tsis qhia rau BP paub tias nws zoo li cas, tiam sis txhais tau tias, muab nws cov kev xav rau hauv cov lus. Lub hom phiaj yog xav kom to taub meej txog qhov kev xav tsis zoo uas nws muaj thiab nws zoo dua, kom nws txaus siab. Yog tias tsis muaj lus hais txog kev khav theeb, nws yuav xav tias nws txoj kev xav tsis to taub. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tau siv cov lus zoo siab, xws li hauv cov qauv saum toj no.
Tseeb
Qhov tseeb yog hais txog qhov tseeb thiab kev ncaj ncees ntawm qhov teeb meem thiab lwm tus neeg lub luag haujlwm hauv kev daws qhov teeb meem. Nws yog lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb uas tsom rua qhov "nws", tsis yog qhov kev paub ntawm tus kheej los ntawm koj tus kheej. Tej zaum nws yuav zoo li thov los yog xav tau ib yam dab tsi uas tsis yooj yim, tsis yog los ua lub luag haujlwm lossis kev lav phib xaub los daws qhov teeb meem los yog txawm qhia koj txog "tsis muaj-yeej". Nqe lus tseeb yog txhais kom meej meej thiab ua siab ncaj rau nws qhov kev xav tau lossis tus cwj pwm thaum tso lub luag haujlwm ntawm nws qhov chaw. Piv txwv li, "Qhov no yog qhov kuv ua tau ...," "Qhov no yuav muaj dab tsi tshwm sim ..." thiab "Nco ntsoov thaum qhov no tshwm sim ua ntej thiab koj xav li cas txog qhov ntawd tom qab."
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau siv cov lus txhawb thiab khuv xim rau qhov ua ntej kom nws hnov zoo li koj hais, txwv tsis pub, qhov tseeb daim ntawv qhia yuav raug lwm tus tsis kam , tsim muaj ntau, tiv thaiv los yog kev npau taws.
Kev Lees Paub thiab Kev Txhawb Kev Txhim Kho Cov Ntawv Tsis Txaus Siab
Thaum thawj zaug kawm txog SET, nws tuaj yeem zoo nkaus li tias koj raug hais kom pom zoo rau tus neeg nrog BPD. Nws tseem ceeb heev kom paub tseeb tias kev siab ntsws tsis tau txhais hais tias koj pom zoo nrog lawv, tsuas yog koj paub tias nws muaj kev xav. Txoj kev sib txuas lus tsis yog txhais tias koj cia cov BP tawm ntawm qhov sib txuas; es tsis yog, koj yuav tsom ntsoov rau kev sib txuas lus ncaj ncees thiab kom ntseeg tau tias koj tab tom hnov, tsis yog ua rau koj tiv thaiv thiab tiv thaiv dab tsi.
Source:
Kreger, R. "Secrets of SET" Psychology Niaj hnub no, 2013.