Tsis Muaj Kev Sib Txuas Lus Sib Raug Zoo
Kev sib txuas lus yog ib qho teeb meem nyob rau hauv ntau cov kev sib raug zoo, tab sis yog tias koj muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb rau tus kheej (BPD) , nws yuav nyuaj heev. Nws tuaj yeem zoo li kev qhia tias koj xav li cas.
Tej zaum koj yuav pom tau tias txawm nyuaj npaum li cas, koj cov phooj ywg thiab tsev neeg tsis to taub koj. Zoo tib yam, tej zaum koj yuav muaj teeb meem to taub qhov twg koj cov neeg txheeb ze tuaj ntawm ib yam nkaus thiab.
Lawv yuav ntxhov siab vim koj tsis nkag siab thiab xav tias koj tau distorted lawv tau hais dab tsi. Qhov no tuaj yeem cuam tshuam heev rau txhua tus neeg koom tes; tej zaum koj yuav tag nrho cov kev tiv thaiv thiab sib cav txog tej yam uas tsis to taub.
Vim tias qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb , nws tseem ceeb heev uas koj thiab koj cov neeg txheeb ze muaj:
- Kev pom rau hauv koj lub siab thiab kev paub
- Kev totaub txog kev ntseeg siab dav dav
- Ib lub ntsiab lus
Cov cuab yeej no yuav cia koj thiab cov neeg hauv koj lub neej yuav tsum sib txuas lus zoo dua.
Ib qho piv txwv
Joyce, leej twg muaj BPD , mam li nco dheev yim npau taws nrog nws tus txij nkawm thiab pib yelling ntawm nws thiab accusing nws ntawm embarrassing nws. Nws tus txiv , Bruce, xav tias qhov npau taws no tawm ntawm tsis pom qhov twg thiab tsis muaj lub tswv yim dab tsi nws tau ua rau nws. Joyce tau nce chim siab thaum Bruce ua defensive, cia li tos rau qhov no rov mus xaus. Bruce sim tawm hauv chav thiab Joyce dheev ntshai tias nws npau taws rau nws.
Nws txoj kev npau taws yog qhov ntawd ntshai los ntawm kev ntshai.
Nws thiaj li, chim siab ebbs. Txawm hais tias muaj tej yam tsis zoo, Bruce tsis paub nws tau ua dab tsi, thiab Joyce chim siab tias Bruce tsis nyiam nws. Tsis muaj dab tsi daws tau.
Hauv qhov ua piv txwv no, tsis yog Joyce los yog Bruce tiag tiag to taub qhov kev cuam tshuam dab tsi. Joyce tsis muaj peev xwm sib txuas lus nws txoj kev xav rau Bruce txij li nws tsis muaj kev pom rau hauv dab tsi ua rau nws npau taws ntawm thawj qhov chaw.
Thaum Bruce sim tawm hauv chav, Joyce ntshai tsam nws tsis tau mus tu nws dua. Nws tsis muaj kev ntseeg siab hauv Bruce tau ua rau nws chim siab . Thaum kawg, Joyce tsis tau muaj lus hais txog nws txoj kev xav / kev ntshai rau Bruce, teeb meem nyuaj ntxiv thiab ua rau nws ntxhov siab.
Nws tseem yog ib yam tseem ceeb heev uas cov neeg hauv nws lub neej tau txais kev nkag siab rau hauv kev txhawb zog thiab kev xav ntawm tus neeg nrog BPD . Yog tias Bruce muaj kev nkag siab txog qhov ua li cas Joyce xav, xav, thiab tawm tsam, nws tuaj yeem zoo dua los kho nws txoj kev npau taws kom zoo; pab nws tau txais nws lub siab tiag tiag, thiab yog li ua rau qhov kev daws teeb meem.
Tswj kev tsis sib haum xeeb
Txhawm rau lis cov teeb meem miscommunication thiab tswj cov teeb meem ntawm BPD , kev pabcuam thiab kev kho mob tseem ceeb. Yog tias koj tsis tau tuaj, kws kho mob tshwj xeeb hauv BPD tuaj yeem pab koj tswj tus kab mob thiab kawm tau cov kev sib txuas lus zoo. Tsis tas li, nws yuav pab tau rau koj thiab koj cov neeg txheeb ze tuaj koom kev kho mob ua ke ua hauj lwm los ntawm ntau qhov teeb meem thiab tsis to taub txog kev txhim kho koj txoj kev sib raug zoo thiab tsim ib cov lus zoo.
Thaum muaj kev sib txuas lus hauv kev sib raug zoo ntawm kev sib raug zoo tuaj yeem raug mob loj vim BPD, los ntawm kev ua siab ntev thiab ua haujlwm tsis tu ncua, koj tuaj yeem sib txuas lus zoo dua thiab txhim kho koj cov kev sib raug zoo.
Source:
Allen, D. "Teb rau Cov Ntawv Ciam Tiv Thaiv Ciam Teb". Psychology zaug , 2013.