Lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb koj nug koj tus khub
Dr. Sue Johnson, kws kho mob psychologist thiab creator ntawm txoj kev xav ntawm kev xav (EFT) rau cov niam txiv, tau pom peb yam tseem ceeb uas cov kev sib raug zoo yuav tsum muaj kom muaj kev noj qab nyob zoo. Nws sau hais tias thaum ob niam txiv sib cav sib ceg, thiab nws yog ib qho ntawm cov txheej txheem cov ntshav sib txawv, nws tsis tshua txog cov tais diav, khib nyiab, los yog nyiaj, raws li ntau tus khub xav tias nws yog.
Thaum cov kev sib raug zoo tsis ruaj ntseg thiab cov koom tes muaj kev sib koom tes, txhua yam ntawm cov ntsiab lus ua rau thaj chaw ncaj ncees. Ntawd cov ntsiab lus, li cas los xij, tsis yog qhov kev sib ntaus yog li cas. Dab tsi yog lawv sib cav tiag tiag yog lo lus nug tseem ceeb ntawm "koj puas tuaj koom rau kuv?"
Cov koom tes yuav tsum sib nug "Puas yog koj muaj rau kuv?"
Johnson muaj kev koom nrog ib daim ntawv qhia kev ruaj ntseg kom muaj kev sib raug zoo los ntawm EFT los pab lawv teb cov lus nug "koj puas tuaj koom rau kuv" tiag tiag. Nws sau txog peb yam tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau muaj nyob rau hauv thiaj li teb tau "yog" rau lo lus nug tseem ceeb thiab ua kom yooj yim rau kev nco qab nrog cov lus Askiv tseem ceeb hauv kev sib raug zoo nrog kev noj qab haus huv yog: kev nkag mus, kev ua haujlwm, thiab kev txhawb siab. Yog tias koj xav kom txhim kho koj txoj kev sib raug zoo, pib kom pom tseeb ntawm kev nce qib no zoo kawg nkaus ua ke.
Kev Nkag Mus
Thawj qhov tseem ceeb muaj nyob rau hauv kev noj qab nyob zoo yog mus tau.
Cov neeg yuav tsum xav tias yog lawv tus khub muaj kev yoojyim rau lawv, thiab lawv tus khub yuav tsum mus yoojyim. Yuav kom nce kev sib cuag ntawm koj txoj kev sib raug zoo, them sai sai rau koj tus khub thiab ua kom nkag siab tias nws zoo li lawv xav ua kom cuag koj. Nws tuaj yeem tsis yooj yim los cuag tus ceg ntoo ntsej muag thaum lub sij hawm raug kaw, vim li ntawd koj tus khub yuav sim mus cuag koj tom qab sib ntaus, tab sis nyob rau hauv ib qho chaw mos.
Sim ua kom qhib rau qhov ntawd. Nws tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum muaj rau kom mloog xwb. Yog li ntawd, ntau zaus cov neeg tsuas xav kom lawv hnov los ntawm lawv cov neeg koom tes, thiab lawv tab tom txaus siab rau kev xav, tab sis lawv tau txais ib qho kev daws teeb meem. Koj tuaj yeem tuaj yeem ua rau koj tuaj yeem ua tib zoo mloog thiab kho qhov koj tus khub pom zoo li cas. Nws yeej pom tau tias qhov zoo yuav ua kom tiav.
Kev Responsibility
Qhov thib ob tseem ceeb hauv kev sib raug zoo nrog kev noj qab haus huv yog kev ua haujlwm zoo. Qhov no ib tug tej zaum yuav pom tseeb, tab sis, kuv mam li hais nws lawm. Thaum koj tus khub los txog koj, teb. Yog tias koj yeej tsis muaj vim tias koj tab tom ua lwm yam, qhia rau lawv thiab qhia rau lawv tias lawv cov kev txhawj xeeb tseem ceeb rau koj. Nrhiav ib lub sij hawm tom qab uas koj tuaj yeem ua ke los sib tham txog qhov teeb meem thiab ua raws li kev cog lus. Thaum cov neeg koom tes pib ua dej khov rau ib leeg thiab tsis txhob teb rau ib leeg, lawv qhib lawv txoj kev sib raug zoo mus txog txhua yam teeb meem. Xwb, nyob twj ywm los ntawm kev teb.
Kev Cobphum Kev Npaj
Qhov thib peb tseem ceeb muaj nyob rau hauv kev noj qab nyob zoo yog qhov kev xav ntawm kev xav. Cwj pwm tsis tas yuav to taub, tab sis kev tshawb fawb ntau yog ua rau kom to taub ntxiv ntawm lawv. Johnson argues tias kev hlub yog tiag tiag kev sib raug zoo nyiaj ntau tshaj li lwm yam, thiab kev tshawb fawb nyob rau hauv neuroscience, psychology , thiab biology zoo li yuav thim qhov kev thov no, raws li nws pom hauv nws phau ntawv Hlub Sense: Revolutionary Tshiab Science ntawm Romantic kev sib raug zoo .
Nws yog, yog li ntawd, tseem ceeb heev rau cov neeg koom tes kom muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus. Nws tsis yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau kev saib xyuas koj tus khub txoj kev xav hauv siab thiab xav paub txog nws, tab sis koj yuav tsum qhia rau lawv paub. Cov neeg koom nrog ntau tus neeg muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus, muaj kev ruaj khov dua lawv daim ntawv cog lus.
Lwm zaus koj tuaj yeem nkag rau hauv ib qho ntawm cov ntshav-boiling fights nrog koj tus khub, tso tseg, sib sib zog nqus pa, thiab nug koj tus kheej seb koj puas yog tiag tiag sib ntaus. Tej zaum yuav muaj, koj tabtom tawm tsam los saib yog tias koj nyob rau ib leeg thiab ntau npaum li cas koj tseem ceeb rau ib leeg. Ua kom koj txoj kev tuaj yeem, muaj kev cuam tshuam thiab kev sib koom tes, thiab sib ntaus sib tua yuav pib yooj yim dua, vim lawv tsuas yog yuav tsum yog cov tais diav, khib nyiab, thiab tiv thaiv cov nyiaj.
Yuav nrhiav kev pabcuam tus kws kho mob uas nyob ze koj, Lub Chaw Pabcuam International Excellence hauv EFT muaj cov npe ntawm cov nroog, xeev, thiab lub tebchaws.