Koj yuav tsis paub nrog cov kev zoo no yog tias koj loj hlob nyob ib ncig ntawm kev quav dej caw
Yog tias koj loj hlob hauv ib lub tsev tsis zoo, koj muaj peev xwm paub txog txoj kev xav tsis paub tias koj yuav xav li cas los ntawm ib hnub dhau ib hnub. Thaum ib los yog ob leeg niam txiv tiv thaiv kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj, qhov chaw nyob hauv tsev yog kwv yees tsis tau. Kev sib cav, kev tsis sib haum xeeb, kev tsis sib haum xeeb, thiab chaos yuav khiav rampant. Cov me nyuam ntawm kev quav dej quav cawv tsis tuaj yeem tau txais ntau yam ntawm lawv txoj kev xav tau los ntawm qhov teeb meem no, feem ntau yog ua rau kev coj cwj pwm tsis zoo thiab muaj teeb meem hauv kev tu lawv tus kheej thiab lawv txoj kev xav tom qab lub neej.
Nws tsis yog xav tsis thoob. Yog tias koj tsis tau hnov cov lus txhawb zog thiab kev txhawb zog uas koj xav tau thaum lub sij hawm tseem ceeb hauv koj tus hluas thiab nws tsis tau muaj kev cuam tshuam nrog tus cwj pwm tsis zoo ntawm tus niam txiv, koj xav paub tias yuav ua li cas koj cov kev xav tau ua tiav raws li tus neeg laus? Tsis tas li, yog tias koj tsis muaj kev sib raug zoo zoo, nws yuav tsis yooj yim los tsim kev noj qab haus huv, kev ntseeg kev sib ntseeg dua tom qab.
Cov menyuam yaus ntawm alcoholics feem ntau yuav tsum tsis pub lawv txoj kev tu siab, kev ntshai, thiab kev npau taws kom thiaj li yuav ciaj sia-thiab vim tias cov kev xav tsis sib thooj yuav tshwm sim tas mus li, lawv feem ntau tshwm sim thaum cov neeg laus. Qhov zoo dua kom pom qhov no yog tias koj yog ib tus neeg laus tam sim no thiab tsis yog ib tus menyuam tsis tau pab. Koj tuaj yeem tsim muaj cov teeb meem no thiab nrhiav kev daws teeb meem nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev uas koj tuaj yeem rov qab tsis tau.
Cov Cwj Pwm Zoo Li No Nrog Cov Menyuam Yeeb Yam Cawv
Ntau tus menyuam mos cawv muaj tus cwj pwm zoo thiab muaj tus cwj pwm zoo.
Janet G. Woititz tau qhia txog cov ntsiab lus ntawm cov menyuam yaus hauv nws phau ntawv qhia 1983, Cov Neeg Laus Cov Dej Cawv , uas nws tau sau feem ntau siv rau lwm cov tsev neeg tsis muaj zog.
Dr. Jan, raws li nws paub, nws yog ib tug kws tshaj lij sau, tus xibfwb, thiab tus kws pab tswv yim uas nws tau sib yuav ua ib yam dej cawv.
Raws li nws tus kheej kev nrog haus cawv thiab nws cov nyhuv rau nws cov me nyuam, nrog rau nws txoj haujlwm nrog cov neeg tau txais kev txhawb nqa hauv cov tsev neeg tsis tau muaj peev xwm, nws pom tau hais tias cov cwj pwm tsis zoo no tsis yog nyob hauv cov tsev neeg cov dej cawv tiam sis kuj rau cov neeg loj hlob hauv tsev neeg qhov twg muaj lwm yam kev coj cwj pwm , xws li kev twv txiaj, kev quav yeeb tshuaj lossis kev tshaj tawm.
Cov menyuam yaus uas muaj kev mob nkeeg ntawm cov niam txiv, cov kev cai dab qhuas, kev tu menyuam tu thiab lwm cov kev ua haujlwm tsis txaus ntseeg feem ntau kuj paub nrog cov yeeb yam no, Woititz said.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm kev quav dej caw xam pom ntawm tus cwj pwm coj li cas.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm alcoholics muaj teeb meem tom qab ib qhov project los ntawm qhov pib mus txog thaum xaus.
- Cov menyuam yaus uas haus cov dej cawv yog thaum nws yuav yooj yim qhia qhov tseeb.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm alcoholics txiav txim siab lawv tus kheej tsis muaj kev hlub tshua.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm alcoholics muaj teeb meem nrog kev lom zem.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm kev quav dej quav cawv coj lawv tus kheej heev.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm alcoholics muaj teeb meem nrog kev sib raug zoo sib raug zoo.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm kev quav dej caw tsis tshua muaj kev hloov ntau dua uas lawv tsis muaj kev tswj hwm.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm kev quav dej caw yeej pom zoo thiab pom zoo.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm alcoholics feem ntau xav tias lawv txawv ntawm lwm tus neeg.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm kev quav dej caw yog cov uas muaj lub luag haujlwm lossis super tsis nco qab.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm kev quav dej quav cawv yog cov uas tsis tshua muaj siab ntseeg, txawm tias muaj tim khawv tias qhov kev ua ncaj ncees tsis muaj nqis.
- Cov menyuam yaus ntawm kev quav dej caw yog qhov tsis zoo. Lawv yuav ntes lawv tus kheej mus rau hauv kev ua yeeb yam yam tsis tau txiav txim siab rau kev coj tus cwj pwm lossis lwm yam ua tau. Qhov kev poob siab no ua rau kev tsis meej pem, tus kheej-loathing thiab txoj kev tswj ntawm lawv qhov chaw. Tsis tas li ntawd xwb, lawv siv ntau lub zog los tu lub qhov dej.
Tam sim no, qhov ntawd tsis tau txhais hais tias txhua yam ntawm daim ntawv no yuav siv rau koj. Tab sis nws yuav ua tau tias tsawg kawg ib txhia yuav.
Cov Khaub Ncaws Teev Tseg
Ua ntej Dr. Jan phau ntawv tau luam tawm, tus menyuam uas yog ib tus menyuam laus ntawm Tuam Txhab, Tony A., luam tawm xyoo 1978 nws tau hu ua "The Laundry List," lwm daim ntawv uas muaj peev xwm paub zoo txog cov neeg loj hlob hauv cov tsev neeg.
Tony cov npe tau raug lees paub los ua ib feem ntawm Cov Neeg Laus Cov Dej Num Kev Cawv Dej Caw Ntiaj Teb Kev Pabcuam cov ntaub ntawv thiab yog lub hauv paus rau tsab xov xwm, "Qhov teeb meem," luam tawm rau ntawm pab pawg neeg lub website.
Lwm Yam Uas Tus Menyuam Muaj Hnub Nyoog Uas Muaj Kev Haus Cawv
Raws li Tony A's daim ntawv teev npe, ntau tus menyuam yaus ntawm alcoholics:
- Ua cais
- Ntshai cov neeg thiab cov cai tswj hwm
- Ua cov neeg nrhiav kev pom zoo
- Tsuas ntshai cov neeg npau taws
- Ntshai ntawm tus kheej thuam
- Ua neeg haus luam yeeb, yuav lawv los yog ob qho tib si
- Saib lub neej raws li tus neeg raug tsim txom
- Muaj kev ntxhov siab ntawm kev lav phib xej
- Txhawb ntau nrog lwm tus neeg tshaj li lawv tus kheej
- Txiav txim siab thaum lawv sawv rau lawv tus kheej
- Muaj kev lom zem rau kev xyiv fab
- Confuse hlub thiab pity
- 'Hlub' cov neeg uas xav tau kev pabcuam
- Muab lawv cov kev xav
- Tsis muaj peev xwm xav tau
- Muaj qhov zoo li tus kheej
- Txiav txim rau lawv tus kheej harshly
- Ua kom ntshai ntawm kev tso tseg
- Ua txhua yam los tuav txoj kev sib raug zoo
- Los ua "para-alcoholics" tsis haus
- Ua reactors tsis yog lam
Thaum Nws Tuaj Rau Kev Sib Raug Zoo, ACoAs Tej Zaum Yuav Tsum Muaj Nqis
Muaj ntau tus menyuam loj hlob ntawm cov neeg quav dej quav cawv tsis zoo hauv lawv txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus, qee zaus lawv pom lawv tus kheej nyiam haus cawv los yog lwm yam khoom ntiag tug, xws li workaholics, uas tsis muaj kev xav tsis zoo.
Cov menyuam yaus kuj tuaj yeem tsim kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus uas xav tau lawv txoj kev pab lossis xav tau kev cawm dim, rau qhov tsis pom zoo rau lawv tus kheej cov kev xav tau. Yog tias lawv pom tseeb txog kev xav tau ntawm lwm tus neeg, lawv tsis tas yuav saib lawv tus kheej cov teeb meem thiab kev ua yuam kev.
Feem ntau, cov menyuam yaus ntawm cov neeg quav dej quav cawv yuav siv cov cawv cuaj caum, txawm tias lawv tsis tau haus dej haus cawv: Qhia kev tsis lees paub, kev txawj ntse tsis zoo, daws teeb meem tsis zoo, thiab tsim kev sib raug zoo.
Kev Txhawb Txhawb Cov Me Nyuam Uas Muaj Cawv Cawv
Yog tias koj pom nrog 13 lwm yam yeeb yam uas tau sau tseg los ntawm Dr. Woititz, lossis "Cov Khaub Ncaws Teev Tseg" los ntawm Tony A., koj tuaj yeem xav txais Kev Tshawb Fawb Cov Menyuam Yaus kom tau ib lub tswv yim ntawm seb koj tuaj yeem cuam tshuam loj npaum li cas nyob rau hauv ib lub tsev tsis muaj zog. Koj yuav pom ntau cov lus piav qhia txog cov yeeb yam no hauv Dr. Jan phau ntawv, Cov Me Nyuam Uas Muaj Cawv Cawv .
Ntau tus menyuam loj hlob tuaj nrhiav kev kho mob lossis pab tswv yim rau kev xav txog lawv txoj kev xav, kev coj, thiab kev nyuaj siab pab lawv ua kom paub txog lawv cov menyuam yaus zoo li lawv yog leej twg hnub no. Qhov no feem ntau yooj yim thaum pib, tiam sis nws tuaj yeem pab koj kawm paub txog koj cov kev xav tau thiab daws tau qhov teeb meem ntawm txoj kev tshiab thiab ua kom zoo.
Lwm tus neeg tau nrhiav kev pab los ntawm kev sib koom tes pab pawg xws li Al-Anon Family Pawg los yog Neeg Nyuj Hnub Nyoog Cawv. Koj tuaj yeem nrhiav tau ib pab pawg neeg sib koom tes hauv koj cheeb tsam lossis hauv cov rooj sib tham hauv online rau Al-Anon thiab ACOA.
Qhov chaw:
Cov Menyuam Yaus Dej Cawv Rau Lub Koom Haum Hauv Ntiaj Teb Kev Ua Haujlwm, "Cov Khaub Ncaws Teev Tseg - 14 Lub Hlis ntawm Ib Tug Me Nyuam Uas Muaj Kev Haus Cawv," (Kev Lees rau Tony A., 1978). Tau txais lub Kaum Ib Hlis 2010.
Woititz, Janet G. Cov Menyuam Yeeb Yam Cawv , 2010 Tshaj Tawm.
> Woititz, Janet G. "Cov Yam Ntxim Saib Ntxim Ua ntawm Cov Laus Cov Me Nyuam," Lub Hauv Paus Qhia.